Reframing a setback constructively is different from forcing false positivity onto a genuinely difficult situation - the distinction matters, since dismissing real frustration tends to backfire rather than help.
Skipping straight to "everything happens for a reason" without first genuinely acknowledging that something went wrong tends to feel dismissive rather than supportive - to yourself or to someone else going through it.
A useful reframe identifies something concrete and specific - what actually went wrong, what could be different next time - rather than a vague, generic silver lining that doesn't actually apply to the situation.
Immediate reframing right after a setback often feels hollow. Giving genuine disappointment some space first, then revisiting it with perspective a day or two later, usually produces a more honest and more useful reframe.